“People don’t change as they get older, they just become more of who they really are.”
–my university professor
Do people change or do people just lose their way?
The older I get, the more I believe this quote from my university professor to be true. In grade school, I knew I loved fashion. I was a fashion designer in my career fair. Even in my teen years and today, one of my favorite activities is just flipping through fashion magazines. It’s funny how when you’re a kid, people want you to believe you can be whatever you set your mind to. Then you grow up, and you start seeing the reality of things. You start thinking that’s just what adults say to kids, but it must not be true because most of the people around you aren’t pursuing their dreams.
So you settle. You go for the easy route, or you take your parent’s advice to go to nursing school (raise hand). Maybe you take your friend’s advice to start a dating column (raise hand). You have fun doing it, but it’s just not you. The point is, you start listening to all the advice around you and stop listening to the voice in your own head who knows all along what makes you light up.
That little voice is in there, waiting to be heard
So we know who we are at such a young age. We don’t have the pressures of parents telling us to be anything or the pressure of needing to make a living. We don’t have peer pressure. We just play. We just enjoy whatever it is we enjoy. Some of us never stop listening to that inner voice. Take my husband. His favorite thing as a kid was playing with Lincoln Logs and building things. He has been building things all his adult life. He’s gotten so good that he’s a superintendent at his company and well respected. He’s also a contented man, and I think that loving what he does for a living has a direct impact on that.
Many of us lose our way somewhere along the way, but if we’re diligent enough to keep asking and keep listening, some of us will find our way back. Some of us will not change, although the world thinks we are changing. Some of us will just become more of who we really are. So in my opinion, do people change? I don’t think so. I think a lot people lose sight of who they are. Some settle and never make back. Some fight to hush the voices around them so they can be still enough to hear their own.
*What exactly do I do? How did I find my way back to who I really am? I write this fashion and beauty blog for apple shaped budget conscious women. Would you like tips and fashion inspiration for your specific body type? Fill out your email address below to get your free capsule wardrobe and my exclusive monthly newsletter–